Should We do a First Look or an Aisle Reveal?

You invest a lot of time into looking your best on your wedding day, so it is easy to understand why the moment of first seeing - and being seen by - your true love is so important! But how do you envision that magical moment unfolding? Below are some things to take into consideration when deciding between an Aisle Reveal and a First Look.

Before we get started, let’s define what each means:

• An Aisle Reveal is the traditional first glimpse of each other as one person is walking down the aisle.

• A First Look is when the couple sees each other privately before the ceremony.

Privacy versus a Shared Experience:

Does the idea of standing in the spotlight as your guests share the moment when you first see each other sound like a dream come true? Great - an Aisle Reveal sounds perfect for you!

Does the idea of experiencing that vulnerable moment under the gaze of your guests sound like a nightmare? Do you feel that the beauty of the moment would be lessened by having others witness it? Sounds like a First Look is the answer!

The Moment After:

After a First Look there is time to do whatever feels natural - a hug, a kiss, a twirl to show off the dress! You can take these final moments with your soon-to-be-spouse to do whatever you wish.

After an Aisle Reveal you will transition directly into the ceremony. No worries about what to say or do as the officiant will take over!

Showing True Feelings:

The privacy of a First Look allows a shy bride or groom the opportunity to experience and express more genuine emotions. If having an audience would cause you to feel as though you are performing (or holding back), then a First Look will allow you to truly be in the moment!

On the other hand, if you think that being directed by a photographer would make the moment feel less genuine, then a candid photo while walking down the aisle might make you more comfortable.

The Photo Experience:

If your choice comes down to whether a First Look or an Aisle Reveal will translate to better photos, then there is a clear choice....a First Look. Nearly all photographers recommend a First Look as it allows them to stage the shot with ideal lighting, the best camera angle, and a perfect backdrop. A First Look also allows the photographer to capture photos of the wedding couple when both are looking their best/freshest (before the ceremony and guest photos).

Are there any perks to an Aisle Reveal when it comes to photography? Sure! If your timeline is tight, then an Aisle Reveal is much faster! We won't need to set up the First Look or allow time for a private moment. We won't need to change locations from the First Look to the ceremony. With a short shoot, an Aisle Reveal can be a better use of your photo time.

Alternatives to a First Look:

For some couples, a First Touch strikes the perfect balance. You can skip the pre-wedding peek, but still share an intimate moment before the ceremony. This is also a great time to exchange letters!

Final thoughts:

While wedding guests often feel they are entitled to share in the special moment when the couple first see each other, they are wrong! (Yeah, I said it!) The couple does not owe this moment to anyone but themselves!! It is theirs to keep private or share as THEY choose! Just know that if you decide that a private First Look is the right choice for you, but still want your guests to think you are having an Aisle Reveal, your secret is safe with me!